5 Things I've Learned While Living with my Husband

It’s Wednesday and we are halfway through the week!!! 👐 One of my evening classes got cancelled today so I’m taking the time to really catch up on life since the wedding! Ajeet and I spent the last few days building a ton of stuff (ok fine, maybe just Ajeet) and we really got our apartment up and running in our 6th month in! And then, it hit us. We’re 6 months into our lease already?! We somehow managed to go 6 months without a headboard and a dresser/nightstands!! Long story short, we had ordered an entire bedroom set online and it came damaged 3 times in the span of 5 months so we officially gave up and walked our butts to IKEA instead! We bought so many things to the point where I simply must do an apartment update post sharing all the goodies we got!! I’m waiting on one more thing to arrive tomorrow and we’ll start the shooting process this week! I’m planning to have it go live next week so stay tuned! 🙂

So since it’s been 6 months since I’ve been living with a guy, I thought now would be the perfect time to go ahead and share some of the things I’ve learned so far! Believe me, I can seriously list at least 100 different things but these are by far what I deem to be most important!

1. The Food and the Aftermath. I’m pretty sure I found my soulmate when I married Ajeet because he loves cooking and well, I’m not the biggest fan. Over the last 6 months I have slowly started to like cooking (well, baking more than anything) but I’d rather clean the dishes than make the meal and in that sense, we make the perfect team. Ajeet hates doing the dishes so we have a great system in place where most of the time, he does the cooking and I’ll bake something and take care of the dishes. We have a dishwasher but I don’t know, I actually like hand washing dishes– it’s a stress reliever for me and the lemon-y smell is hypnotizing! Growing up, my dad would do most of the cooking because that’s his passion and he’s seriously such an amazing chef. We always joke around and tell him to open his own restaurant because it’d be ahh-mazing! Over the years, I think I just got comfortable with someone else cooking for me so I’m very lucky Ajeet loves cooking! We have a great system in place and it works perfectly for us 💗

2. Poo-Pourri is your real best friend. ***Warning TMI*** Ok ladies. Sharing a bathroom with a dude is no joke. It smells. Bad. I don’t like it. The toilet will be dirty within a day and the sink will be full of HAIR. Ajeet loves to shave his face above the sink and all those pesky little hairs linger for MONTHS, I swear!!! The first few months were difficult because all it was a surprise or perhaps a rude awakening for lack of a better word. Over time, I accepted some parts of the mess but not all. I invested in something called Poo-Pourri which by the way, everyone should own. All you gotta do is spray before you 💩 and no one will ever know! 🙊 As for the mess, Ajeet’s designated chore around the house is to clean the toilet at least once a week! Granted, I may have to scrub a bit more after lol what is it with guys and not being detail-oriented?! We argue about who is more detail-oriented all the time so hopefully he’s not reading this! 😅 As for the hairs, he’s learned to be a little better about keeping the hair all in one area and then clean things up a bit immediately after so I don’t see a dark hole in the sink! P.S. I’m such a clean freak and I have to do it myself (I turn into Monica) so I do the majority of the cleaning around the apartment because I just need to, hah! I’m sure Ajeet isn’t complaining though. 😉

3. I’m more like Monica than I thought. When I lived in my parents house, my room would be such a mess almost 80% of the time. I would just throw my clothes on my dresser and proceed with life until I couldn’t see my dresser mirror any longer. As soon as I moved into our little apartment, I turned into such a clean freak. I’m talking “Monica clean!” (Friends reference). I always hang up my clothes after changing, I bought so many amazing organizers (I can’t wait to share them with y’all!!), and I always disinfect as much as possible!

4. You can’t run away. If you aren’t good at communication, you better learn. Besides trust, communication is by far the most important thing in a relationship. We all know that it was so easy for Ajeet and I to run away from arguments just by going to our separate homes or saying we need time alone and get off the phone. It was too easy to avoid our problems. Truth be told, I hated that. When I’m upset, I would like to talk it all out immediately rather wait for hours to resolve a matter. Now that we live together, our arguments barely even last 10 minutes. We are forced to sit down and talk to each other. When I say talk, I really mean listen. It’s important to really listen to one another and come from a place of understanding rather than a place of defensiveness. Don’t try and think of a response while you’re listening to someone. Actually listen. Coming from a place of defensiveness is definitely not healthy for your relationship and it’s so important to learn that early on. Now that we live together, it’s not so easy for us to just run away and it’s the best thing that’s ever happened to us! We both love hashing things out immediately now and it’s really helped us grow as a couple!

5. Romantic surprises come a lot easier. Whether it’s coming home to fresh roses or the forever rose, Ajeet is amazing when it comes to surprises. I came home to a beautiful forever rose (from The Beauty and the Beast) that he DIY’d and it just made my day. Living together has made it a lot easier to surprise each other with little things that show you care. 💘\